Break ups happen. Relationships. Partnerships. Sometimes things just fall apart.
Have you ever been SO in love with someone or so happy in a partnership and then all of a sudden it just falls apart? I have.
After getting enough distance from a former lover or partner, I found myself STILL pining over them. It may have been months or even YEARS later and I was still wishing I was with them. Even though I KNEW it wasn't healthy or for my best interest. There was a deep desire to get back into relationship or partnership with these people.
I wanted to move on. I wanted to love again. I wanted BIG LOVE. I wanted a partnership in business that helped me flourish and realize my dreams. So I asked The Uni-verse why the Love from my past had turned into poison of my present.
I got an answer. I began to see something really clearly. It was profound, yet simple.
I began to see that I was in love with or stuck on the IDEA of them. What I was pining over in my head wasn't who they really were.
I was remembering all the good moments, but forgetting the bad. I would remember why we decided to come together, but forgot why we broke apart. I was spending so much time thinking about this IDEA of who I thought these people were that I wasn't present. I wasn't present for new love or a new partnership.
Underlying this pining was hurt and below that hurt was fear - fear of being hurt again. So there was the hurt from the break ups and then the fear of that hurt being repeated.
These two things kept me debilitated from moving forward for a long time. It was easier to stay closed down than it was to open back up. But I made a promise to myself to never let the pain of the past dictate the choices of my present. That is to say, I asked my heart to become stronger instead of risk becoming less scary. I decided to try my best to stay open, rather than let fear win and close down.
'Cuz the truth is that we are here to learn and The Uni-verse teaches us best through contrast (aka pain). So slowly, but surely, I decided to open up.
I still tip toe into new situations; it is scary for me to open up to one person. It's MUCH easier to write blogs that are seen by thousands of people, which is ironic.
Part of me still judges myself as my former relationships judged me. Sometimes my inner critic is the loudest voice in my head, but I still keep the intention to be open.
The only other option is to close down. And when you do that, you end up starving yourself of the most important thing on earth - love. Our bodies can be alive without love, but it is IMPOSSIBLE to truly LIVE without love.
So, as an exercise today, if you have an ex of any kind that you can't seem to get over - ask yourself - are you pining over them or an IDEA of who you think they are?
Ask The Uni-verse for clarity, It will give it to you.
Most importantly, stay open and receptive to new love, new friendship and new partnership. Being receptive to new people and outcomes is where the magic really happens.
I'm wishing you all the best from my heart that you are released of this Love from your past that is now a poison of your present moment. You may think it will take more time to get over them, but The Uni-verse is ready, RIGHT NOW, to give you love, to give you joy and to give you your heart's desire.
If I were to take my own advice, what would that look like for me? It would look like showing up even when I'm scared of rejection. It would mean expressing the words, sentiments and thoughts that Love moves me to say. It would mean letting go of the outcome and just being present with whomever I am with. It would mean being vulnerable rather being perfect. That's how to create a life of loving relationships. Love is always right there for you.
Your job is to open up and let it in.
Love,
Mastin
GUEST
Also, 
DAILY
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